Archive for October, 2010

work from homeDon’t expect your spouse, your children and your family or friends to be psychic. If you require something of them, let them know.

There have been many times I know my husband Mike thought I was from a different planet, speaking an alien language trying to communicate what I thought I meant… he didn’t get it.

I have learned to be specific and that I get much more help if I say to Mike, “will you please help with the laundry by putting the clothes in the dryer?” As opposed to yelling upstairs- “the laundry is ready.” My family knows that when the business line rings. I will disappear out to the office so that I can have quiet.

There are times when I choose not to answer it if my family is in the middle of something and let it go to voicemail. However if I’m expecting a call, they know the drill.

I’ve often had to work through the rolling of my daughter’s eyes…teenagers can be so condemning with just a look.

We are always communicating. We usually make a point of sitting down for meals together so that we can share what is happening in our lives. We set goals together and choose something fun that we will do with the profits when our goal is reached. We have set many simple goals that were short-term, and we have set some long range mouthwatering goals that I can’t wait to achieve. Some goals we have missed and simply reset. This is a part of any business.

I often get great ideas from both Mike, my daughter Megan or my family and my friends. Since time is a limited resource, I have to be willing to ask for help. I like to spend my time resources, in the most productive manner. I have learned to face the fact that I can’t do everything. Hopefully, so will you. Get out your priority list again to
find and explore your options.

Barbara was having a hard time asking for help. She had four small children and had just started her own  home-based business because she didn’t want to turn over the full-time care of her children to someone else. She had to explore some other options like having a sitter come over to her home occasionally or sharing part-time
childcare with another home-based parent.

She learned to plan her client meetings for work during those hours when her children were taken care of and they would not be a distraction. She hired a college student majoring in accounting to help with her bookkeeping. She has trained her older children to help with the younger children, which gives her time slots to be on the phone working on business.

Help is out there; ask for it.

Jamie was having a hard time communicating to her family as well as her support team in her home based business. Whenever she felt stressed, she reacted poorly. She could not get a handle on how to move beyond this behavior. Here are some tips that helped Jamie.

Tip One: Speak Immediately
When giving an assertive message it is important to speak about the topic you are concerned with while it is actually occurring or as close to it as courteously possible. This helps keep the flow of communication relevant. If you wait for hours, days or weeks to approach the problem situation, you may experience increased stress and sleepless nights as you brood over the matter. So aim to resolve the problem situation as close to when it is occurring as  possible.

Tip Two: Be Direct
It is important to realize that the situation you are in is primarily affecting you in a negative manner. The other person may have no qualms about the situation. In fact, they may not know or even care that their actions are affecting you. You will need to state the problem to them directly. Provide them with an example of the annoying action or behavior. Further, to help resolve the problem, it is best to suggest some alternative action that they may take or directly ask them to stop the offending behavior.

Tip Three: Be Pleasant
When you communicate an assertive message to another person, you are asking them to stop performing some annoying behavior or action and instead to do something less obtrusive. If you present in a manner that they perceive to be hostile, it is very likely that the other party will get defensive. This may precipitate a nasty and avoidable scene turning your assertive message into an argument!

Instead, take a deep breath, think it through and find a pleasant posture. This will help you frame what you need to say in the right manner and your delivery is more likely to be accepted.

Tip four: Keep Calm
The main risk in giving an assertive message is facing the resistance of the other party. Occasionally the other party may take offense at what you are presenting, or resist without apparent reason. In these situations, it is important to maintain your composure. If you act offensively, they will not want to help you. Make up your mind to keep
composed even if there is resistance and repeat your assertive message in a different way until it is accepted.
Jamie has taken these tips to heart and feels she is a better communicator today as a result. She has experienced increased confidence and other people are responding better to her requests.

Mr. Attitude

Mr. Attitude Jim McCune Is The Real Deal!

Jim McCune, known as Mr Attitude, has inspired tens of thousands all over the United States and several countries with his 21 Laws of Success Training and his Want People Skills Training. Jim, who is a former High School Principal in West Virginia, was raised in a little coal camp called Pityme Hollow (Holler) to those from WV.  He and his lovely wife Mary Martha, have built one of the most successful businesses in the home based business industry and they have helped many build great incomes from home in their own businesses with no risk whatsoever.

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work from homeYou May Have To Adjust Your Expectations When Working From Home. I didn’t say lower your expectations. I had a friend that joined a network marketing company, expecting to create a six-figure income in her first few months of the business.

When I asked her how she had arrived at this goal she had set for herself, she had no earthly idea other than she wanted to do it. To help her adjust her expectations, I had her set a dollar amount and impose it upon a time line that was both realistic and doable within that time she had allotted to build her business.

She had a full-time job and four children ranging in ages from four to sixteen. Now, rather than face abject disappointment because she did not meet her goals, she set goals to reach her objective within a reasonable time frame and has an action plan to achieve it.

Most women find the first days running their home businesses are like a honeymoon. They are filled with enthusiasm and excitement.

They have planned and prepared and feel like nothing can stand in their way.

I’ll never forget the feeling I had when I had my first business and I was on top of the world because I had just enrolled my first business builder. I felt limitless ambition in my leadership abilities. I could lead a team! I could lead an army! The stark reality was I could barely lead myself back into my office to start again when my new business builder called less than twelve hours later to tell me that they were quitting without ever starting.

This is when reality sets in. It doesn’t always meet our expectations. We believed that everybody we talked to would be as enthusiastic as we were. They are not. Our products or services may not be the perfect products that we envision them to be….and the day-to-day challenges of running a business start to take their toll.

This is where a lot of women give up….. Excuses camouflage the fact that she is scared, probably tired, and disappointed. It is critical to adjust your expectations and realize that this is normal and to be expected. Take advantage of local networking groups and support groups.

If you can, talk to your support team or other women who are working at home. They will understand what you’re going through and often just talking to someone else who understands can help you get through the tough times. Also, keep your priorities clear. Go back to your priority list. Remind yourself why you started the business in the
first place and keep your focus on your long-term goals.

We will look at communication in an upcoming post and why it is critical to the success of your business.

Life can always provide humor out of the travesty of relationships gone askew. Hope this isn’t your Grandpa.

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work from home

Is it difficult to build a business today? Only if……

Author Unknown

It is difficult when you must produce a report on a Sunday
afternoon and cannot attend your son’s football game.
It is difficult hearing the mobile phone ring on Christmas morning
and you cannot see the excitement on  your daughter’s face as she
feverishly tears into another box.

It is difficult knowing the rust bucket you call a car is eating
you alive in maintenance, but you  cannot afford a new one.

It is difficult to go to your  annual performance review, and even
though you have worked hard for  another year, you come away empty
handed.

It is difficult knowing that you shop by sticker rather than
whether the garment looks good on you.

It is difficult knowing that the house you are in, is because
prices just went up and your budget is to  the bare bones.

It is difficult knowing that you married a wonderful person, and
promised them the world, and for the next 30 years you look at
balancing the budget and figuring out what sacrifices must be made.

It is difficult reciting “If we get this, we cannot have that”.

It is difficult always lowering  your dreams to meet your means.

It is difficult knowing that you have spent 40 years of your life
working for someone else only to realize that you will be retiring
on 1/3 of what you cannot live on today.

It is difficult when your children move out, and you cannot visit
them because traveling costs too much.

It is difficult knowing that the fish are biting this week and you
cannot drop what you are doing and  take your dad fishing.

It is difficult watching the spark in your partner’s eyes fade
because both of you realize the house you  have been wanting is
just a dream, because someone else is controlling your finances.

It is difficult waking up one  morning and realizing that your
children, the most precious things imaginable, no longer need
bottles, diapers, have tea parties, eat things found under the
sofa, are shorter than the baseball bat they  are trying to
swing–but are grown and starting their own families and you missed
all of that because you agreed to be locked in an  office for
twenty years by a boss who watched his children grow up.

It is difficult dropping your one-year-old at the nursery because
you have to be at work by 9am to  stand by the Xerox machine or
handle irate phone calls, and realize  someone else is going to
watch your daughter take her first step, or have your son say “dad”
(or “mama”) to the playground teacher.

It is difficult knowing that you have diligently worked only to be
given an early retirement.

I will tell you what is difficult. It is real difficult realizing
it is too late and that time frittered  away can never be
retrieved. It slips through our fingers one second  at a time.

What are we doing with it? We have nasty habits about
rationalizing, procrastinating and skirting important things rather
than facing the issues. Too often we allow others who do not pay
our bills, who do not share our dreams, to direct our future.

We have absolutely no freedom as a child.

We rebel in our teen years and scream for freedom.

We die for the right to be free.

We fight vicious wars to have the  seemingly innocent ability to
choose.

We reach adulthood and we  relinquish freedom because we think it
is too difficult.

We do not want to take responsibility.

We do not want to make a wrong decision so we obligingly give that
awesome power to someone else.

We feel it will take too much  time. Then, we have the audacity to
complain when the decisions made were not what we wanted.

We wake up too late; (we say) phrases like  “I wish I had only”,
“If I could only have that time back” etc.

I believe the majority of people want to sing, but die with the
music still inside. Face the music and shoulder some
responsibility. You cannot have that time back. You  have chosen
your direction. If you have not spent your time wisely, too bad.

You have no one but yourself to  blame. You had the chance. Perhaps
the opportunity was presented many times and each time you elevated
the trivial to a higher priority  than yourself.

It’s all about choices….difficult choices?…depends on how you look at it. Is it difficult to show someone a great business idea? Is it so difficult to understand that if you work this  marketing idea for a couple of
years, you might not have to confront  some nasty options?

Would you work real hard for a year or two so you could put your
family in the home of their dreams?  Would you work real hard for a
year or two so you could send your  children to a college chosen by
excellence rather than one chosen by  price? — the same criteria
you used for clothes shopping?

Would you turn off the idiot box,  the soaps, the talk shows,
sporting events or (CSI) for a year so  you could take dream
vacations several times a year?

Would you apply yourself for a year or two so you would have the
freedom of being able to roll over, yank the covers over your head
and wake at the crack of noon because you wanted to?

Would you work really hard for a couple of years to mold a
lifestyle of your choosing so your family  could live a lifestyle
of their dreams, rather than trying to live how someone else thinks
you should live?

We really think we are important in our jobs. The company we work
for cannot survive without us. We are the cog that keeps things
moving. Everything would grind to a halt without our presence.
Think again. Corporations are not structured like that.

A corporation does not rely on people to remain viable. A
corporation needs many properly arranged little squares,
functioning in a preset order to survive. After many years as a
manager in the corporate environment, here is an excellent
visualization of your importance. Find a bucket and fill it about
3/4  full of warm water. Make a fist and push your left arm in the
bucket  up to your elbow. Now, quickly remove your arm. The
resulting hole is your impact. Sobering, isn’t it?

Can you identify the words “next time”? How many “next times” will
you have?  What will it take to get you off dead center?

Will it be knowing that people are physically deteriorating when
you have a product that will help them, but are afraid of someone
thinking you are taking advantage of that  person and are just out
for the money?

Gosh, I hope not.

Will it be knowing that people are agonizing through bankruptcy,
realizing they only needed a couple more hundred dollars per
month– not $50,000 per month–but you  procrastinated once again?

I hope not.

Realize the awesome power you have in your hands with the right business model.
The business you have chosen has the ability to change
lives.

IT cannot do anything. But YOU can change lives with IT.

YOU are the one with the life-changing ability. What are you
waiting for?

What will it take?

You will pay a price for your actions.

Which one do you choose to pay?

Remember…EVERYONE has ups and downs…even MJ!

I have missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I have lost almost
300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game’s
winning shot…and missed. And I have failed over and over  and
over again in my life. And that is why…I succeed. ~~Michael Jordan

Is it difficult to commit, then persist to build brick upon brick of your future?

Absolutely….remember the closing line delivered by Gina Davis  in “A league of their own.”

“It’s the hard that makes it good.”

Wisdom Of Value Is Priceless…And Worth The Read.

work from homeEveryday is a gift…when you include wisdom shared from the experience of a life well traveled. Include one or more of Regina’s insights today.

Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland ,
Ohio .

“To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.
It is the most requested column I’ve ever written.
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once
more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and
parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their
journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God
never blinks.

16.. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is
up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no
for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie.
Don’t
save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will
this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did
or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d
grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come…

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.”

work from homeDaily I hear from someone that has self-esteem issues. I’ve danced with my fair share of stuff…..and have a personal  arsenal of self-help and motivation reinforcement I l dip into regularly. I wanted to share some great  material on Increasing Self-Esteem!
by Denis Waitley
(excerpted from The Psychology of Motivation)

Following are six behaviors that increase self-esteem, enhance your
self-confidence, and spur your motivation. You may recognize some
of them as things you naturally do in your interactions with other people. But if you don’t, I suggest you motivate yourself to take some of these important steps immediately.

First, greet others with a smile and look them directly in the eye. A smile and direct eye contact convey confidence born of self-respect. In the same way, answer the phone pleasantly whether at work or at home, and when placing a call, give your name before asking to speak to the party you want to reach. Leading with your name underscores that a person with self-respect is making the call.

Second, always show real appreciation for a gift or complement. Don’t downplay or sidestep expressions of affection or honor from others. The ability to accept or receive is a universal mark of an individual with solid self-esteem.

Third, don’t brag. It’s almost a paradox that genuine modesty is actually part of the capacity to gracefully receive compliments.

People who brag about their own exploits or demand special attention are simply trying to build themselves up in the eyes of others — and that’s because they don’t perceive themselves as already worthy of respect.

Fourth, don’t make your problems the centerpiece of your conversation. Talk positively about your life and the progress you’re trying to make. Be aware of any negative thinking, and take notice of how often you complain. When you hear yourself criticize someone — and this includes self-criticism — find a way to be helpful instead of critical.

Fifth, respond to difficult times or depressing moments by increasing your level of productive activity. When your self-esteem is being challenged, don’t sit around and fall victim to “paralysis by analysis.” The late Malcolm Forbes said, “Vehicles in motion use their generators to charge their own batteries. Unless you happen to be a golf cart, you can’t recharge your battery when you’re parked in the garage!”

Sixth, choose to see mistakes and rejections as opportunities to learn. View a failure as the conclusion of one performance, not the end of your entire career. Own up to your shortcomings, but refuse to see yourself as a failure. A failure may be something you have done — and it may even be something you’ll have to do again on the
way to success — but a failure is definitely not something you are.

Even if you’re at a point where you’re feeling very negatively about yourself, be aware that you’re now ideally positioned to make rapid and dramatic improvement. A negative self-evaluation, if it’s honest and insightful, takes much more courage and character than the self-delusions that underlie arrogance and conceit. I’ve seen the truth of this proven many times in my work with athletes.

After an extremely poor performance, a team or an individual athlete often does much better the next time out, especially when the poor performance was so bad that there was simply no way to shirk responsibility for it. Disappointment, defeat, and even apparent failure are in no way permanent conditions unless we choose to make  them so. On the contrary, these undeniably painful experiences can be the solid foundation on which to build future success.

Making The Transition Into Your Real Deal

work from homeThe alarm explodes… you want to pull the pillow over your head for just 5 more minutes…you need to prepare yourself mentally because you’ve chosen your business, but even if you’ve prepared yourself and given this a lot of thought, you will need some time to adjust to your new lifestyle even if it’s those toasty last few minutes spooning with your pillow, before you hop out and hit the ground running.

Working at home will most likely be a major change in the structure of your family. Don’t assume that everything will be perfect right from the start. You are bound to run into some toe stubs.

First of All, Determine Your Priorities.

Defining what you expect for your business and family is important before you start your business. What are your priorities? Do you have to have a clean house? Make lots of money? Have free time for yourself? Is your spouse supportive? Will your children be expected to help with the business or will it be off-limits to them?

Will you work regular hours?

My family is one of my top priorities, which is why I choose to work from home in the first place. When all is said and done, I would rather say I’ve had a marginally successful business and a successful family life. I do believe that it’s possible to combine business and family successfully. Many times in my life I’ve made a list of all the things
that were important to me and they fell under such categories as:

 Family

 Health

 Business

 Money

 Fun and recreation

 Security

 Community Involvement

 Recognition

Then I numbered them to determine my priorities. I’m amazed and somewhat embarrassed when I look back at the first list that I wrote when I was still in college. Maturity has changed me quite a bit, thank goodness. I won’t share the list with you but I will say that fun and recreation ranked much higher twenty years ago than they do now.
Doing this exercise may make you think about things a little differently and will help you clarify your priorities.

We will look at how we may need to adjust our expectations in a future post.